Yeste
rday, i had a fight with my boo. Reason for this fight i can’t really place. Though i know that in the mist of over a hundred words that were said, the cause of the argument didn’t lie anywhere beneath.
I just realized that lately our fights has become more often, especially since our engagement. I mean, shouldn’t this be the time of our life when we live perfectly, in so much love and harmony as we plan our wedding. Rather most of our energy is spent settling issues that pops up every now and then. Did i forget to mention the amount of airtime consumed while talking on the phone.
I had thought like Hilary Duff that ‘love is just me and you’, or like in our case me and him. Little did i know that i was in for the shock of my life. Who would have thought that saying yes to a proposal could change your life overnight.
Once the whole chills and excitement about the fact that he proposed fades away, few days after the event. Reality sets in! Then you begin to think of two, you watch your language, attitude, and tone when talking to him. In everything you do, he is been considered first(my boo calls it respect). You totally surrender yourself to be butchered, slain, and sometimes enslaved, in the name of MARRIAGE. All this i had known long before i clocked 14.
You might wonder ‘if i knew this all along why did i say yes’. Well, in my defense i will say “when a young, handsome, and charming man whom you deeply love stands before you in the presence of family and friends on your birthday, with a diamond ring(no matter the clarity, cut or size) in his hand, asks you to marry him(i mean isn’t that a beautiful feeling, setting and timing); what was i to say?”.
Maybe i thought i could handle it, obviously i was wrong. I am immature and self-centered(so he says). I don’t intend to apportion blame, but to find a solution. THE SOLUTION!
Maybe am a little proud, and not submissive. Lets face it, i love this guy, and i cant imagine my life without him. Its about time i grew up, support, love and respect him(trust me, that’s gonna be real hard work), help him discover himself, help him grow. I have really been a pain in the ass this few weeks.
Even though i know putting him into consideration first at all times might prove difficult, i am willing to try.
The truth us, i love him and that’s all that counts.
