FRIENDSHIP!!!
The word has been mis-interpretated by most people if not all ranging from teens, youths and adults but specifically the teens. friendship according to BBC dictionary, i was made to understand that it’s a relationship or state of friendliness between two people who like each other. Now lets bring this mentality to teens. A form of realtionship that exists between two or more people who like each other, a relationship based on shared interst. A relationship where you hope to achieve alot from in all ramifications, where the feeling is mutual and if all these are absent then it’s no friendship.
Unlike what we have today, teens believe it’s mandatory that every friend of the opposite sex must or should become a lover thereafter or an affair would arise as time goes on which is not supposed to be. Teens in this predicament loose their priority and self control claiming the feeling aroused as they played together often and before you know it your friendship is emotionally attached and from there, one thing would lead to another. No wonder most parents stir up anger in them fuming with rage whenever they see their daughters around the opposite sex. This wouldn’t have been if instances like this which led to a life time regret had not happened but on the other way round, it starts from the parents” train up a child in the way he should so when he grows he would not depart from thee” most parents ignore this, deny their kids the home education they need like friendship, love affair or sexual ralationship, maturity and lots more because some believe that they are corrupting the kid hoping when they grow, they would learn not knowing it’s what you inculcate in your child from the onset that lives within in him or her and grows daily not withstanding, it doesn’t give the child the opportunity to flirt around because your parents denied you your right instead, help yourself because it’s your life they can’t live it up for you.
Without derailing, we could see friendship as a kiss, in order to get any good from it, you have to give it out to someone else. Make friends because that person adds to you positively and not because everyone has a friend so should you. Have a friend who loves the unlovable, someone who gives hope to the hopeless, friendship to the friendless and encouragement to the discouraged. A friend who understands that failure is an event not a person, that yesterday ended last nite and today is your brand new day, someone who doesn’t criticize, speak ill of you. A friend that would tell you the truth when others lie to you, someone who would seat you down and geer you up with a pep talk, give advise to you that if you learn from a defeat then you haven’t really lost, a friend that would love you like God loves us as seen in JOHN 12;15 “my command is this, love each other as i have loved you”. A friend that would forgive you when you are wrong, someone who would overlook an offender and treat the offender as not guilty.
The greatest good you can do for a friend is not to share your riches with him or her but for you to reveal to them their own riches. Friendship is not bout having a raltionship with the opposite sex or commiting sexual theft with whosoever because with that, your are violating the law of friendship. Keep your emotions aside when having friends sometimes you loose it and get confused. I wonder how man realtionships you’ve had if you have feelings for every opposite sex you meet. Learn to control yourself around yourself especially the opposite sex. Make no mistake… it could be costly! Friendship is like a car, you wash it and chek the engine before you set out. While driving, change gear, match the brake pads and drive carefully toavoid pot holes.
Feb 14TH approaches and it’s no news we all know what the day is but i announce to you thats its not out lovers alone, you could also enjoy the company of your friends ofcourse, no strings attached to it. If you have a great insight, you would realise that when one says he or she is in love, its not bout the kisses, smooches or making love but the abstract thing they feel within themselves that makes the love then other things follow more like a seal or bond. Friends can share the same things…without anything attached to it. A true caring friend interested in impacting positively without no harm meant. FRIENDSHIP IS A BLESSING WHEN YOU HAVE THE RIGHT SET OF FRIENDS…
