How often we hear comments like, “I don’t believe in love”, “I’ve not been lucky with love”, “Love isn’t real” all in an effort to express the disappointments, the sorrows in some wounded hearts at their inability to love and be loved equally. And to crown it all, the swift passage of time and the geriatric inevitability in the human nature only go further to accentuate the hopelessness and frustration searing such hearts — time is slipping away and they are most likely going to spend their entire lives alone, love-sick without that ideal man or woman to call their own; they will never know the warm cuddles of love, nor its tender kiss; they will never hear someone whisper into their ears with genuine emotion, “I love you”.
Also, there are others who have been fortunate enough to love, or so they thought, even if it was just once before they finally made up their minds, giving up on their supposed love, while they swear with clenched fists and in-between gritted teeth, “Love sucks”. To these, love is awkward, it’s just impossible. Imagine going to bed and waking with the same man or woman everyday. Soon, the woman begins to realize, “He’s not the same man I fell in love with five years ago”, that is if the relationship lasts that long. And the man grunts, “She has lost her charms”. With each passing day, both parties see more reasons why they shouldn’t be together, for that is all they are interested in at this point — faults. Situations like this have taught us that it is only a thin line between love and hate.
One thing is common between the two classes of people: they haven’t found love yet. However, it still doesn’t negate the fact that love is the freest thing Nature has ever given to man. It is available both to the high and the low, the rich and the poor, peoples of all races, and to both sexes. And still, of all that a human heart can desire, love is the most sought-after, and many a search ends up in futility. Even some, who seem to have found it, open their fists only to discover, to their own dismay, that they have been grasping the empty air all the while, and nursing false hopes. So it seems that a thousand hearts are parched with the mortal thirst for emotional fulfillment; and it is sad, for their thirst may never be quenched.
But then, is there really no hope, no possibility, no chance that those who seek may find? Is love totally an illusion? To them that are yet to make the discovery, it may be so; yet the amazing testimonies of those few who have encountered love unalloyed cannot go unnoticed, they surely cannot fall on deaf ears. Therefore, there are founded reasons to believe that love does, in truth, exist and that it is, indeed, possible and, in fact, the most pleasant thing ever known to man.
If love is everywhere and available to everyone, is it safe to say, then, that some people have been looking in the wrong places, or that they are just blind to love? The truth is the sun has no favourite, yet it cannot shine on a dusty mirror as well as on a clean one. The love we reflect is the love we get, for we are loved as we ourselves love.
The major condition in finding love consists more in loving than in being loved, and the only way to stay in love is by loving anyway. One of the reasons why many modern marriages do not endure is that people do not marry a person. They marry an experience. They fall in love with an ecstasy or thrill, loving the cake only as long as it has frosting on it.
It is high time we began looking for love in the right place — in our hearts. There is a spark of love in all of us waiting to be poked into flame. To find love, you must be capable of loving, for the human nature has the tendency to act as it is acted upon. Staying in love when you have finally found it is your own decision to make. Just remember, the act of love is more in loving than in being loved. If all lovers bear this in mind, then their only concern would be to outdo each other in love. Indeed, there is no better way to keep the flame burning.
The moth will always go where there is light. Let your flame of love burn strong enough to warm others, and one day it will attract that special one, for those that are loving will always be found by love. And when that special one comes by, ask for nothing but give everything and you will forever be cherished in that heart.
