There are different reasons why girls choose to date married men, but in my opinion, 95% of the time, it all boils down to one thing, MONEY. I’ve heard all the reasons, from the SEEMINGLY JUSTIFIABLE, to the ALMOST PARDONABLE, to the DOWNRIGHT ABSURD.
A seemingly justifiable reason would be “My mother was dying in the hospital and there was no other way to get the money”. This might seem harsh but your mum could have wanted to die. I am not a mother, but I know that I’d rather die than have my daughter sell her body to save me, because as much as we try to pretend otherwise, that’s what is, selling your body.
An almost pardonable excuse is something like this, “My parents didn’t have the money to send me to the university”. Well guess what, maybe you didn’t need to go to school, given that you think that was your only choice, you’re not exactly the smartest cookie in the jar. Speaking of smart, when I asked a friend why she was dating a married man, she said “I didn’t know at the time that he was married, when he was referring to his “family” in London, I thought he meant his father and mother”.
Then a downright absurd reason is “I needed a car, I can’t use ’OKADA’ God forbid. And it is even too dangerous”. How dare you? First of all, you’ll be in far greater danger if some women ever caught you with their husbands. Second, WOLE SOYINKA, a Nobel laureate has been known to use okada when he was late for an appointment, so who the hell do you think you are?
Even married women are not left out. I know that if we were all compelled to do DNA tests, we’d be shocked at the number of people whose father’s are really not their father’s. You don’t believe me? I challenge you to have a DNA test done; in fact I DARE YOU to do it.
It is sad because the problem is so rampant and is almost regarded as the norm. But I am glad that even in some states in the U.S (a place people consider to be THE DEN OF SIN), there is a law known as ‘ALIENATION OF AFFECTION’ that gives a wife the right to sue the woman that has an affair with her husband. I truly wish that we had that in Nigeria.
People have asked me why I bother to keep talking about this issue, when I know that I really can’t make a difference. But I think that if by talking, I can stop even ONE girl from being with a married man, I’d have made a huge difference.
I know what you are thinking. You think that girls like me, that keep preaching about this matter are UGLY, FRUSTRATED people that no man would even look at. Look me up, my name is Ada Anijah-obi and I am BEAUTIFUL, and I CLOSE MY LEGS TO MARRIED MEN.
