Although it is likely your first experience or your hundredth!, one thing is for sure, you expect much from this romantic appointment with a complete but not ‘total’ stranger, so that anticipation throws a little ‘party’ in your heart and suddenly, the result or hangover is anxiety. If you are a first timer, you are mostly excited and eager, if you have been down this road before, you are really anxious. Then, you meet him and for a brief second you think you should have declined the invitation earlier!. Your heart drops but so do your shoulders, you are thinking: ‘Should I go ahead and talk or should I just leave?’. Then you know you are disappointed. May be he is not the movie star look-alike you had assumed him to be, may be his dress sense is below average, maybe he appears extremely fidgety. Or, maybe he is even all you had hoped he would be but, after chatting with him, you discover he is insensitive towards global issues, playfully condemns your sense of style, prefers to use all the time to reminisce about his past affairs. You are eager to leave. But when you do leave, when you are back in the comfort of your own world, when the world’s gone to sleep but you can’t, you want to find something or someone to blame for the rough time you had. You wish he had only just been 110% perfect, then you’d call him again the next time.
First, you should have to allow yourself loosen up and exhale. Nothing that happened was your fault. Fate had only played a role. Besides, given that he never directly mentioned to you that you’d be meeting a ‘Mr. Perfect’, you only assumed you will. Don’t let this perturb you. Pick one pleasant moment during the sociable occasion and dwell on that instead. It could not have been too bad!. LAUGH MORE, don’t crumble from frustrations as there is always a brighter day. Most importantly, try again!. Make up your mind to meet others you have not. And if he calls you up and you need to decline, say ‘no’ in a polite way. You would feel better yourself. Do remember, that the gentleman had dressed up to meet with you only shows how eager he also was to see you. Meaning: you were important enough.
