“That much-desired special something that makes heads turn and hearts throb” – Ebony
Your sex appeal is your attractiveness to the opposite sex. It is a combination of qualities or attributes that are capable of arousing sexual desire in men. It’s also capable of inspiring men to action. A woman’s mind or personality–whatever it is that makes her uniquely herself–is indeed the first erogenous zone, says the author of Winning The Age Game. “A man is intrigued and challenged by a woman who is an interesting person in her own right, whose personality has enough depth to provide that essential ingredient for any successful relationship between men and women–the masculine need for meaningful conquest,” says the author. “The woman who relies on the appeal of physical conquest alone finds that this appeal is very short-lived.”
FOCAL POINTS OF ATTRACTION ON WOMEN
- Sweet Smile. Smiling reveals the beauty of women’s eyes and lips. You can convey many things without speaking a word just by smiling and the look of your eyes. Men have been known to indulge in all forms of sexual fantasies just by seeing women smile. When a woman smiles, it has a way of generating feelings and eliciting desires in men.
- Hot Hips. Waist-hip ratio or Waist-to-hip ratio (WHR) is the ratio of the circumference of the waist to that of the hips. It is calculated by measuring the smallest circumference of the natural waist, usually just above the belly button, and dividing by the hip circumference at its widest part of the buttocks or hip. The waist-hip ratio in women is often considered a key feature in physical attractiveness.
- Potent Breasts. The female breast has remained a focal point of potent attraction to the male observer. They are pleasant to behold and thrilling to touch. They’ve been proven over time to arouse sexual desire in men. Steph Auteri wrote “The boobs hold an allure for men that is unmatched by any other part of our body. They like to stare at them. They like to touch them. They like to put their mouth on them. They like to use them as pillows. It doesn’t matter what size they are. I swear to you. Just the fact that you have them makes men crazy.”
- Smooth Skin. Men are attracted to smooth skin too. The texture of a woman’s skin is also considered as sexy to many men. When he sees it, it arouses a desire to touch in him.
- Sexy Curves. Female body shape is the cumulative product of a woman’s skeletal structure (her build) and the quantity and distribution of muscle and fat on the body. Human beings and their cultures have perennially focused attention on the female body as a source of aesthetic pleasure, sexual attraction, fertility, and reproduction. Everything about the way women are shaped screams Woman!!! to men.
- Fluidly Movement. Sarah Nichols wrote “Men are attracted by the way a woman walks. The fluidity of their movements coupled with the gentle swinging of their hips attracts the eyes of the men like a magnet attracts iron. Even the most simple of acts like bending up to pick something seems more graceful when performed by a woman. Their body language in everything they do is so fluid, smooth and graceful and this gets enhanced if she has a figure to match.”
There is no crime in having a sex appeal. After all, you didn’t create yourself. However, you create problems when you start using what you have as a weapon of mass destruction. I believe that ladies should use their sex appeal to create positive influences in our society. Your sex appeal should not be seen or used as a “weapon fashioned against men” but as a “resource channeled to motivate men”. No doubts, men are moved by what they see but you can determine what you move him to do to some extent. Your sex appeal could be used to motivate men to do the right things. I have come to discover that most men act the way they do and do the things they do because of the women in their lives. You should use your erotic capital judiciously. Erotic capital or sexual capital is status possessed by an individual as a result of his or her sexual attractiveness to others.
- Be the person you believe yourself to be on the inside. Attractiveness is not just about physical qualities. Charisma and magnetism and confidence are far more attractive than a stereotypically ‘beautiful’ person with a nasty attitude.
- Package yourself appropriately. Dress to fit the occasion. I believe that private parts should be kept private. You don’t really have to flaunt your sex appeal in the workplace. You distract your male counterparts and affect your company’s productivity. Why show up for an interview in a clothe that emphasizes your sexual objects? Is that your objective? Stop sending conflicting signals.
- Don’t trust in your physical appearance. Never accept the deception that your sex appeal can get you anything in life. You may be disappointed. Use the right means to get what you want. I understand that many ladies have obtained favour via their sex appeal but it doesn’t really apply in all cases. You must learn to do the right things and to do things rightly. This helps you maintain a clear conscience. It also saves you the stress of covering up your flaws with your sex appeal because the consequences may be too difficult to recover from.
- Learn to say no. The ability to say no when you should say no is a trait that must be possessed by all ladies. You must learn to accept those things that are consistent with your values and deny the ones that are inconsistent with your values. No matter how well you compose yourself, there are some men who are out of control and are ready to do anything to get you. Train yourself to deny unnecessary sexual advances. Don’t fall for anything. Stand for something.
- Select your friends wisely. Choose friends that encourage good morals. Friendship is not by force. It is by choice. Don’t become involved with people who have an agenda or seem selfish and self absorbed. If you mingle with people such as this, you may end up getting hurt or raped in the end.
- Be at the right place at the right time. Watch where you go. There are some places you are not supposed to be. Be careful. Misuse of your sex appeal can lead to sex abuse from men. Many ladies are victims of sexual abuse or harassment due to their own carelessness. Manage your time effectively.
- Practice good hygiene. Keep clean. Do your manicure and pedicure regularly. Your hair should be washed, conditioned and styled on a regular basis too. Get rid of unwanted hair on other parts of your body. Keep your breath fresh with proper brushing and flossing. Avoid unnecessary body odours by showering or bathing regularly. You can wear perfumes too.
