A friend once told me that crimes of passion should never be forgiven. She reasoned that it is probably the highest form of betrayal to have your life snuffed out by the very one who claims to love you. As far as she was concerned, it was worse a betrayal than being found in the arms of another.
Do you agree?
Last week a Nigerian professor in the U.S. Dubem shot and killed his Jamaican wife Cheryl. He must have been enraged over the possibility that his wife was cheating on him.
Does this make you think? Wonder about your own relationship? I’m sure situations like these will make you wonder if you’re safe in the arms of your love or if you are likely to meet the same fate that befell Cheryl should you ever stray.
Relationships are like safe havens. We should find peace and security in the arms of the ones we love when the fiery troubles of life hit us hard. We should not be prisoners on our own islands.
As much as I understand the pain and the attendant feelings of betrayal and helplessness the infidelity of a partner brings, I do not condone such crimes neither do I absolve straying partners of any wrong.
It has been said that majority of women in incarceration all over the world were accused of murdering their own partners.
This should make you think and re-evaluate your relationship, is it fool proof?
Next time you encounter a Dubem and Cheryl case, don’t waste too much time criticizing and trying to decipher who is right or wrong but rather learn from it. Your relationship could do a whole lot better.
Don’t you think?
By RemiRoy
