MEN STEROTYPES
Most times we don’t understand why men’s characters vary. Even men themselves don’t understand the variations in their behaviors. It is this lack of understanding that brings problems in relationships.
As a lady, you need to have the knowledge of the variances in men’s behavior for you to understand the group your spouse or boyfriend belongs. This will enable you to make a good choice in relationships. It reduces the risk of heartbreaks for a saying says “knowledge is power” and another saying says “we perish because of the lack of knowledge”. It is better for you to know the possible outcomes of a relationship and prepare your mind towards that than to raise false hopes that mighty crush you at the end.
As a man, do you always understand your actions and behaviors and where such actions tend to lead you? Some men don’t even understand themselves and the way they behave. It is the way you treat a lady that will determine how she takes you. Most men are ignorant of that.
This article will help the ladies to decide what sort of man and the kind of relationship you want. It will also help the men to understand themselves more. The seven main stereotypes of men are discussed below.
THE PLAYER.
This is a guy who sees himself as a God’s gift to women. He goes to have as many women as he wants. He has a perfect look which makes ladies easily fall for him. In fact, most ladies adore him. This makes him feel women are tools to play with. He talks smoothly and calculative. He is everything but faithful.
He knows the right word to say at any time. He will take you out on several occasions and smoothly talks you into footing the bill. The lady doesn’t see anything wrong in paying the bill at first after, “He is such a nice person”. This becomes a common practice.
He will wine you, dine you and tries to bed you. He turns you into his sex tool and eventually dumps you and moves to his next target. He says they the three magic words “I Love You” always while what he really means is “I Love Manipulating You”. You don’t worth anything to him rather than a piece of object for sexual gratification. A lot of women easily fall for him. They do everything possible to have a date with such a man.
THE PERVERT MAN
He believes that relationship is all about sex. He asks you for sex after few days of meeting you. When you refuse to give him that, he tries raping you. After taking you out the first day, he suggests you visit him. The visit to him is not to look at his well furnished parlor but for him to practice his seduction lessons on you in order to satisfy his selfish desires. He believes women are made for only two purposes; cooking and sex. He can go hungry some times but cannot let a day pass without having sex. He wants sex everywhere. He becomes unfaithful when he is deprived of sex. He looks for women that can give him sex whenever you deprive him of that.
THE DICTATOR.
You might think that his dictatorial instinct is a sign of “a man in control” at the beginning because he pretends to be considerate and kind. He used to ask you what you want and how you felt but at the long run you discover he is not what he pretends to be. He obliges you to accept all his decisions without minding the how you feel about them.
He insists you put on a blue gown to a friend’s party without minding whether you like wearing gowns. He insists you must honor his invitations at the expense of your comfort but invite him for ones and he will surely say no to that. He sees you as an inferior being and your views, interests and opinions are also inferior. He sees his rules as the final and your feeling about them doesn’t matter.
THE UNROMANTIC MAN
The greatest set back of this group is their in ability to show love. This might be as a result of the impression created for them when they where still young that”Men Don’t Cry”. This type of man grows to be an emotionless being. He suppresses his feeling of love for anything or anybody. He can date you for more than a year without saying “I love you”. If he eventually does that, it will take another one year for him to say it again.
He believes men should be tough and unbreakable this makes him to be rigid. He seems emotionless. He always has a hard time with any woman he cares for because always practice what he believes.
THE MAMA’S BOY.
Ada cooked fried rice for dinner. She was sure Ikenna will be very hungry after a hectic day in the office. Ikenna took a spoon from the meal. Instead of commending Ada for the effort she took to prepare the meal, he said “My mother use to use kidney to cook her own fried rice.
That was all Ada could get for using her energy o cook for the man she loves thinking that he will appreciate that.
This kind of man seeks his mother’s opinion before doing anything. He compares everything you do with that of her mother. He insist you must do everything the way his mother does. You must like the colours her mother likes, eat like her, even tell the stories she used to tell him. Whore betides you if his mother doesn’t like you. That will be the end of the relationship. If his mother utters one word of displeasure against you, the relationship will gradually hit the rock.
The truth is that this kind of man can’t think for himself. In fact, his mother lives his life for him.
THE WORKAHOLIC MAN.
Grace and Stephen are partners. Stephen always spends almost all his day at work. He doesn’t pay attention to his spouse due to the fact that there is no time for him to spare. Stephen really love Grace from the depth of his heart but the cannot compromise his work for anything. He believes that he is making money for the comfort of both of them. This action of his makes Grace feels uncared for. She needs her man to always pay attending to her. She needs him to listen to her stories, go for dinners with her and always be there for her. This attitude of Stephen makes her feel he doesn’t love her.
A man under this category sees his job as the priority. Nothing can ever come between him and his job, not even “YOU” his spouse. He sleeps in the office often in order to leave no stone unturned. He only sends money to you to take care of whatever you need. He is not there when you are sick. There is no time to even call you on phone to enquire how you are. Perhaps, if you and his job are presented for him to choose one, he would choose his job and not you.
THE GODLY MAN.
This is a man that has the fear of God in him. Though as human, he may display any of the above mention character traits; his actions are selfless because he is led by the spirit of God. He always remembers the golden rule that says “Do unto others what you want them to do unto you”. He puts himself in the shoe of his spouse thereby does everything to make sure she is not hurt. He loves himself therefore he loves you. This is because he practices the new commandment of God “love your neighbor as yourself”.
He is a man and must portray the attributes of a man but “moderation” is his watch word. He has listening ears and accepts corrections. He considers your feeling and opinion. When he insists on a particular thing, he tries to make you understand why he did that. In fact, he carries you along in whatever he does.
I believe studying the above mentioned stereotypes of men will help you understand the man you are going out with and also make the right decision. It will also help the men to have the knowledge of some of the things they do which they are ignorant of.
BY
AMARACHI NJOKU.
