Emotions have to do with the feelings and dating mainly involves the emotions: that is the feelings of loving, hating, being angry and sad. It is a feeling of guilt, joy, sorrow, fear and the likes. In fact, it is the emotions that actually propel us into dating, intimate relationship, sex or sexual intercourse and marriage. I do not think I would be wrong if I assert that without the emotions, dating would be meaningless, except in cases where the relationship was arranged and even in this, emotions play a very serious part.
When you are dating, one part of your being that must be kept under control is your emotions. If you truly love that person you are in a relationship with, you will always crave for his/her presence. You will want to see, feel, touch, talk to, smile at, be and converse with the person. The only language your emotions will understand at this period is to be with your lover. You will have so many pet names for him or her. My ‘love’, ‘friend’, ‘companion’, ‘sister’ or ‘brother’, ‘father’ or ‘mother’, ‘honey’, ‘sugar’, my ‘only one’, my ‘joy’, my ‘happiness’ etc. Some of us will even go to the extent of using different phrases like: “Without you I cannot breathe, eat or drink”. “I may not survive if I don’t see you soon”. “It is when I see you that I feel safe”. “The sound of your voice thrills me and adds joy to my heart”. “You are mine and nobody will take you away from me”. “I will love you till my dying day”. “I feel lonely without you”. “I will die if you don’t come and see me”. The list is endless.
These thoughts and phrases are good for that is exactly what dating is all about but it can be destructive if not checked. This is a period when the emotions go haywire that, if not controlled, can lead to both parties indulging in pre-marital sex. This can result in hate, sorrow, disappointment, distrust, guilt, tears, hurt, regrets, sexually transmitted diseases (STD), loss of virginity, pregnancy etc. if you are not emotionally mature enough to put your feelings under checked at the thought, utterance, touch, sight and sound of your partner, please and please, do not make the mistake of starting a relationship. It’s dangerous!
Psychology is the scientific study of the mind and how it influences our behaviour. It refers to the kind of mind that somebody has that makes him or her think or behaves in a particular way. Your psychological state dictates how you think and what will be the outcome of your thought, which will eventually manifest, physically.
Thinking right depends more on our background, our lifestyle. Many of us do not use our brains at all. This concerns the ladies more. You (ladies) allow too much of your emotions to make decisions for you. While I do know and appreciate the fact that the feminine gender is made more to be an emotional being, I also recognize that basing critical life decisions solely on emotions can be disastrous.
It is a fact today that the number of broken relationships and divorces are increasing daily and one major, very significant reason for this is that many relationships or marriages are based on emotions. Many youths (especially females), when on the verge of starting a relationship, always give the same reason for dating: “I love him (or her) so much and that’s good enough for me”. Love is very important in a relationship but it is not the only criterion needed for a successful and rewarding relationship. Yes, love probably takes between sixty to seventy percent, but the remaining thirty to forty percent are equally as important. Your brain tells you how real and enduring the relationship will or might be.
