My heart goes out to those eligible singles out there who have attained the right age for marriage but are still holding out to make sure they get it right once and for all times. I cannot but salute their courage and outstanding display of sense of purpose in standing out of the common crowd of those who believe that the solution to a wrong marriage is divorce.
Deciding to get married to just any kind of person is easy but it is the bane of those who erroneously think of marriage mainly in the light of the ceremony that takes place on the wedding day. The wedding day is truly just the beginning of marriage and many who rushed into bad marriages for all the wrong reasons without due consideration of the realities are languishing in the pains of their bitter harvest of regret and conjugal infelicity today.
Frankly speaking, I must admit that it is not an easy experience to go through periods of extended delay before marriage, especially when almost all of your mates, friends and younger siblings or relatives are getting married all around you, but it pays never to live a life of immediate self gratification at the expense of the future. The hurts, pains, rejection and setback from a failed relationship can be very difficult to manage or cope with. There will always be discouragement from people but a clear understanding of purpose simplifies life and makes almost anything bearable. It defines what you will do and what you will not do.
Even when it appears as if you’re running out of time remember never to succumb to the temptation of contracting a mismatched marriage just because of the pressure from what others might say or think of you. It makes no sense to allow others make decisions for you, strip you of your individuality and intimidate you into violating your own standards, common sense or reasoning. There is also practically no wisdom in marrying the wrong person merely to prove a point to people, after holding out for all that time. It is always going to be better to endure the pain and discomfort of self discipline than suffering the pain of regret. Discipline will produce strength of character which will protect your potentials and sustain the longevity of any marital relationship you finally enter into.
