Masturbation is an enemy of progress. It destroys or limits destinies. It’s a sin in God’s sight, just like every other sexual sin. It’s an abomination before your Creator. Yes! It’s sexually exciting and pleasurable but it is also
• physically addictive,
• emotionally disturbing,
• psychologically confusing
• And spiritually draining.
Are you addicted, disturbed, confused and/or drained? There is hope. It does not matter how long or how far you have been hooked on the act. It is not what has happened that is important, but what is about to happen. No matter how far or deep you have gone you can be set free.
An adage says, “The day a mad man knows he is mad, fifty percent (50%) of his problem is solved”. By reading this, half of your masturbating habit or addiction to masturbation has vanished. Did you say a big Amen…to that?
Your first step to deliverance is to accept masturbation as a problem. Masturbation is not godly; it’s not right and is not normal. Do not in anyway try to explain it away for that is exactly what Satan will want you to do and believe. He wants to give you sorrow, pain, guilt, unhappiness, worry, impurity, blemish and the likes. Do not be fooled by his tricks.
Actions beget reactions and some factors cause masturbation or makes individuals to indulge in the act. These are:
1. Ignorance and Misinformation
Knowledge; that is, good and right knowledge will free you. Part of this is what you are presently doing. Ignorance will not take you far in this world; in fact, it will actually take you steps backward.
He who knows not, and does not know that he knows not, is a fool, avoid him. Somebody that does not know and understand masturbation and believes he knows it is not only a fool but is actually working towards societal severance, isolation, loneliness, conceit, and death. I implore and beg you to please get informed or you will end up, deformed.
He who knows not, and knows that he knows not, is a child, instruct him. This is an individual that does not know and understands masturbation and is sure he does not know. He is not self-conceited and does not behave knowledgeably on the issue. His attitude will either be: “I don’t know and I don’t care to know” or “I don’t know but I want or would love to know”. Which position have you taken? Naturally my advice will be the latter. Love to know; desire to be informed.
He who knows, and does not know that he knows, is asleep, wake him. Some people know certain truths and facts about masturbation but are unaware of it. Why? They could have had an ‘I don’t care’ attitude or just felt masturbation is of little or no significance to them. Listen, if you do not masturbate, what about your friend, mate, colleague, neighbor, relative or somebody you know that does. Can’t you help him or her? ‘A friend in need is a friend indeed’. Are you truly a friend to that person struggling and suffering under the satanic clutches of masturbation? Are you?!!
If you have money and you do not know you do, its usefulness has been temporarily defeated as long as you are not aware of your possessing it. In fact, you will gladly borrow if you are pressingly in need of cash and yet, you have the money somewhere.
He who knows, and knows that he knows, is wise, follow him. This is the person that knows and understands masturbation. He does not only know, but is totally and completely sure that he does.
Knowledge is indeed power. Good and right knowledge is freedom so, since you know what rouses you to masturbate, avoid it.
2. Peer Pressure
Certain notions and beliefs must change. You do not have to satisfy anybody in this world at the expenses of dissatisfying your Creator. Stay away from friends, peers, colleagues, relations, neighbors etc that demands from you what your Creator hates. Avoid them like plagues, at least, until your will power is able to resist their taunting and demands. Bad company corrupts good character. Negative peer pressure will destroy you!!!
3. Pregnancy and STD
This is trying to escape judgment and punishment while enjoying sin (i.e. masturbation).
Whatsoever you SOW, you will REAP. You may escape pregnancy and STD but you definitely will not escape judgment and punishment.
God’s foolishness (if possible at all) is wiser than the peak of men’s wisdom. However wise you may be with masturbation, your wisdom cannot be equated with God’s foolish laws, as you call or called it. I ask, do you reasonably, sincerely, honestly and sensibly think that God can be foolish?
4. Complex
On inferiority complex you need to know that you are designed to be unique which is why no two individuals have the same fingerprints. Nobody is better than you; it’s only in your imagination. You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Fearfully as to be a terror, or to terrorize hell and its occupants. Wonderfully, as to advertise the glory of heaven on earth. Have self-esteem.
Superiority complex and pride or haughtiness goes together and when pride comes, then comes shame (stigmatization, guilt, sorrows etc): but with the lowly (humble) is wisdom.
Superiority complex breeds foolishness and stupidity
5. Orgasm
As a husband, understand the fact that if it takes you five minutes to reach orgasm, it probably takes your wife fifteen to twenty five minutes to do the same. A way out is for the man to learn how to hold back his ejaculation by constantly holding back his urination or when urinating, should do it in bits. This is also good for women. The man should know that it is his responsibility to make sure his masturbating wife enjoys sex, if possible, more than he does. Selfishness in sex destroys marriage.
If your husband masturbates because of his lack of ability to satisfy you sexually, patience on your part is needed. Your greatest tool is communication and understanding. I mean unreserved, holding back nothing type of communication. Tell your husband how you feel, inform him about your sensitive or erotically stimulating parts, and how to get you stimulated, prepared and ready to obtain orgasm. If communication is so vital in marriage, it is of more importance in sexual matters. Communication is golden.
So, orgasm reached or obtained outside sexual intercourse between lawfully wedded couple is spiritually and morally wrong and sinful. Believe me when I tell you that when God gives you a command, law or instruction to follow, He is not doing it for Himself but for your own sake.
6. Partner’s Availability and Readiness
The word ‘benevolence’ means to be kind, helpful and generous. Thus, the husband or wife must be kind and helpful to his/her spouse. He/she also must be generous in giving or being willing to give freely. Benevolence can also be summarized as to be considerate to your spouse. The husband or wife must be considerate in dealing with his/her spouse in all-marital issues including sex.
Concerning sexual matters, you do not have a right to deprive or deny your spouse of sex. In marriage, couples do use sex to win one favor or the other, to state a point and to show disapproval on an issue or decision, taken or is about to be taken.
The simple truth here is this, the day a man takes the marriage vow; he forfeits his God given right over his own body to his spouse and vice-versa. So, if you have solemnly swore to take your spouse lawfully and have promised (with a covenant before God and mankind as witnesses), to live together in holy matrimony after God’s own ordinance; to have, hold, love, honor, be faithful to, be true and loyal to in every condition of life (i.e. in prosperity, adversity, sickness and health), till death comes; you have forfeited your bodily rights.
If each partner decides to keep to this, the issue of a partner’s availability and or readiness for sexual intercourse will not even arise.
7. Satanic Influence
As I have stated earlier, it takes the spiritual to understand the spiritual (I Corinthians 2:14) and Satan is a spiritual being or entity. Thus, it must take another Spiritual Being or Entity to confront him. Please, understand that in this world, spiritual matters are paramount and anything that manifests physically must have been settled spiritually. Satan can and will only be overpowered or defeated by his Creator, God (Colossians 1:15-17).
If you are addicted to masturbation and you find it difficult controlling the urge when it comes, you need deliverance. I knew a masturbator that got delivered through self-deliverance but his own case was an exception and it was because of his level of spiritual maturity or spirituality. So, please and please, get a spiritually mature Christian gifted for the purpose to pray for and with you for deliverance. I know, trust and believe God that your deliverance will not and will never elude you in Jesus name, AMEN!!!
