Below are responses from some couples. Read, and then in few lines write out the unique ways you serve your spouse. What improvement can you make?
“I make the bed every morning, and fix dinner once a week. It’s not Mother Teresa stuff, but you gotta start somewhere.” —John Ortberg, pastor and author, married to Nancy for 22 years.
“Any day my wife comes home late, I personally fix her dinner and serve her food in bed” – Gbenga Efuntade, Pastor in Lagos, married for 9 years.
“Jesus served his followers by washing their feet. In his culture that was the job of a servant. I asked my wife and she had no desire for me to wash her feet, but she had a lot of other good ideas, such as: take out the garbage, vacuum the floors, wash the dishes, dust the blinds, and keep the lawn looking nice. I followed Jesus’ example, and I live with a happy woman.” —Gary D. Chapman, marriage and family expert, married to Karolyn for 43 years.
“One of the greatest ways a husband can serve in marriage is to lovingly touch his wife—in a non-sexual manner and without wanting sex. In my marriage, my wife loves having her scalp massaged. Many nights she falls asleep with me reading, holding my book with one hand and massaging her head with the other. She knows I’m not trying to manipulate her into ‘something more,’ and I know it’s something she truly loves and feels served by—in spite of the shoulder pains or my arm falling asleep!” —Tim Gardner, director, The Marriage Institute, married to Amy for 16 years.
