My line of work gives me the opportunity to meet a lot of people everyday, I have come to the conclusion that most of us are confused and don’t know what we want: those that know are either scared of getting it or have a problem keeping it.
Every one has a fantasy he or she wants to live in. Some when they get to live that fantasy realizes it’s not want they want and start looking for something else.
Last week I met a man who said he had always wanted to cheat on his wife; to experience the thrill other men talked about. He did for 3 months, became sick and 3 weeks later found out he had the deadly virus HIV.
His friend Uche has been cheating on his wife for 6 years. Have 2 children out of wedlock and 3 children from his wife and have never gotten any sexually transmitted disease.
Uche and I had a long talk, he said most men who cheat on their wives are never happy; though he hates what he is doing to his wife, he can’t stop. It pains him whenever he sees his wife, especially when she does things only a woman in love can do for a man. He knows she loves him, and he loves her, but he also loves the other woman.
I had the opportunity to speak to several men, they all said that been unfaithful is one thing no man is proud of but cannot do without. Some men are happier with their mistresses than with their wives, but she will always be the other woman said the men.
After a long discussion with the men, I came to the conclusion that most men cheat not because they need to, but because they want to. Hey! I am just another woman who can’t understand why men cheat; so I have some questions to ask.
1) Who is to blame? The men or the mistresses?
2) If been unfaithful makes you happy, why stay married?
3) Can you be in love with your wife and cheat on her?
4) Men who cheat on their wives get upset when they catch their spouse cheating, why? Is it right to say that cheating is meant for the men only?
