Obviously, the adverse effects of deserting the task of running the home for the constant search for financial security are numerous. It tells on the kids, and on either spouse. This cannot be overemphasized. It is true that the finances keep the home running, but then, how well can you balance this with the emotional needs of your loved ones?. Here are some tips:
- If you are really a busy mum, get a reminder (these features are available on mobile handsets already), put in the birthdays of your spouse, kids and even yours. Put in your wedding anniversary date and so on. This way you will be reminded of these special events amidst the busy schedule.
- Find time during work to call home and check on things occasionally.
- Although you are drained from work, find a good time after your rest to inquire about your kids’ homework and school lessons. Merely asking for it, even if you may not do anything serious with it, is sufficient catalyst to put them in a happy mood as they know you cared enough.
- If you work weekdays and close late at night, utilize your weekends adequately by having quality family-time together and doing things as a family, that way you can—if not completely—make up for family-time lost during the working week.
- Although the economy is biting, try to avoid getting jobs that may require your physical input even during weekends.
- Develop a nice rapport with your boss or subordinates (if you are the boss), so that no one will ‘frown’ when you want to close early or leave a not-so-important meeting to attend your child’s Prize-giving Day.
- Do not overload yourself with three to four different jobs at once. You need to work to assist in the financial upkeep of the home but you do not want to do it at the expense of genuine family commitment.
(Next topic: Trading Family over work?)
