The word is resilience. The ability of a teenager to successfully manage life and adapt to change and stressful events in healthy and constructive ways is called resilience. The reason some teenagers can face any situation, no matter how difficult and still come out strong on the other side while on the other hand, some crumble and coil at the slightest disappointment or challenge is the level of resilience in the teen.
As much as the level of resiliency in a child is determined by the determination of the child, parents can both influence and increase resiliency in their teenager. How?
Have time for your teenager. Find time during the weekend to just be with your child to both just sit and talk about everything or do some fun activities like cooking with your child or just doing sports. It goes a long way in boosting the morale of the child and giving him or her sense of identity.
Learn to love your kids for their differences. Don’t compare your children for any reason. Hey were not born at the same time, so don’t expect them to have similar traits. It will only build a timid and often hurt child if you continue to compare him with his siblings or any other child for that matter.
Teach your child the skills of self-esteem. One way to do this is complimenting the child when the child least expects it. Ask questions from the child if he or she does something out of the ordinary, even if you know how to do what he has done, pretend you don’t know and ask questions to make the child feel elated and proud of himself. For instance, a child that does not do his homework by himself on a normal day and does it one day, praise him like he has done a very major work and encourage him to do more.
Keep your children interested in life by doing something out of the ordinary once in a while. It goes a long way to keep them wondering what you are up to.
