In our world today, communication is very important and essential. It is something we do every day, whether we are interested or not, whether we are conscious, prepared for it or not.
The problem of making first impression has been and is still a problem today especially in the corporate world and social world. Lets consider this scenario where a guy walks up to a girl asking for her phone numbers and address without formally introducing himself and getting to know her. That sounds awkward and embarrassing, but it does happen.
Below are secrets of making good first impression.
FOCUS ON THE RESPONDENT
People especially men who chat with women and vice versa, do a hundred other things instead of paying attention to anything to what others have to say during their conversation with them. This gives false impression about you, and this can last for a long time in their minds.
Pretend that he/she is the only person in the place for the next couple of minutes “And don’t forget direct eye contact is very important. “Don’t stare at the person you are communicating to. People don’t like when you look at them 100% of the time; it gives them the ‘no’ feeling and creepy
SPEAK LIKE A NORMAL PERSON
Many people these days especially among young adults try to imitate a star or celebrity in the way they speak. Some still do it in interviews, corporate meetings and social gatherings in order to create an impression, unknowing to them that they are just making a mess of themselves. Try to be normal, “don’t try and fake it, and don’t blatantly try to use the same type of language as your respondent or a celebrity”. Be cool about it. People feel connected to other people when their language is similar.
DON’T OVERSELL YOURSELF
This seems to be a common and critical mistake. “Don’t gloat. Don’t get all up in the camera. Don’t brag about monetary possessions. People can pick up easily on someone when he is overselling, and it ruins the fun permanently” Be cool and somewhat mysterious.
USE HUMOR
Everyone loves a good joke, but it must be in good taste. Feel him/her out before you start making jokes that poke fun. Poke fun at something he is wearing or something in her room, but it must be in good taste. Meeting people is an uncomfortable situation for men and women alike, but if you can keep someone else laughing, it eases the tension and shows that there is probably no need to be worried that he is a lunatic.
SMILE
“Be charming and smile, “but not too big. Remember I said you should focus while having a conversation. Many end up developing nut-faces so that people say that guy is tough. This will only ruin your relationship permanently. When someone sees someone else smiling, there is a greater chance the person will stick around to continue the conversation and probably love to hang out with you any other time.” It creates a good vibe at the start of the chat and it’s harder for a person to just click off for no good reason if the other person.
BE IN THE RIGHT FRAME OF MIND
Imagine you want to talk to a lady then you start thinking about the fight you had with another recently, or a candidate facing an interview panel, but his head is clouded with the brawl he had with the taxi driver who dropped him off. Clear your head first and be in the right frame of mind before you being a conversation or you will end up saying jargons.
START A CONVERSATION
Much like in real life, cheesy pickup lines are passe. “Cheesy pickup lines faded with the ‘90s. Use a good tone of voice. The best results start with a small compliment to begin the chat. Then get into introducing yourself. This works a lot. After a compliment, so you have a couple minutes to keep the person interested and make it work. Always be a conversation initiator and try to sustain it for as long as possible.
SIT UP STRAIGHT
Seeing a guy with bad posture slumped over in a chair is a big turnoff. First off, it gives the impression that you’re frumpy and out of shape because your body is doubled over and displaying much girth. Secondly, when you are not interested in the meeting.
In the corporate world, this has also become a problem among job seekers. Drop the invisible suitcases that are weighing your arms and shoulders down and stand at attention. Roll your shoulders back and keep upright. It makes you look even taller and smart. Remember that your body language and nonverbal cues are incredibly important in first encounters.
KNOW WHEN TO END THE CONVERSATION
