First off, we get sucked into rebound relationships because most men can’t stand to be without a girlfriend. They go out on the pull straight after a break-up and that’s when they’re in top form at chatting us up because of their inner desperation.
So if you can’t resist that man who has just had his heartbroken, or gone through a bad break-up, follow these rules:
- If he keeps banging on about his ex, or the break-up, gently steer him into other topics of conversation – like the wonderful you! If he keeps going on and on about it spell it out to him that you don’t mind talking about it some of the time but you d0n’t want it to dominate you two getting to know each other.
- But if he starts making a habit of turning you into his emotional prop, you need to draw a line under it. Let him know that you want to ‘be there’ for him but at the same time you want to have some fun. You don’t want your new relationship to have the big black cloud of his break-up hanging over it.
- If he starts saying that he loves you, and wants to be with you, tell him to put a lid on it – at least until you’ve been going out for a few months. There’s no way he should be thinking about falling in love again before he’s really over her.
- Avoid old haunts. Don’t let him drag you to places that they used to go together.
