There are three relationships that are essential in every person’s life. These have to be balanced in order to make for a complete and well rounded individual: A whole person, who feels complete and comfortable with herself. It is imperative that each of us have a strong relationships with our very selves. This is a necessary ingredient for a successful relationship with others especially those of the opposite sex. If we do not have this all important relationship or should I say, be in consonance with ourselves , it will adversely affect the way we pursue relationships with other people, thereby putting ourselves in a desperate situation and putting other people around us in the tight spot of having to fill a void that cannot be satisfied by another. A person who does not love himself or herself becomes way too needy and suffocates the other party, weighing them down with the guilt of not being able to satisfy what is an insatiable need.
When you do not love who you are, there’s a tendency to rush into relationships that are sometimes detrimental to your well being. People get very compulsive and would do anything to get attention once they feel like they are lonely. But they forget that just because you are alone does not mean you are lonely. You simply do not have company at that time, that’s all!
Whatever you think you are going through, loneliness or” aloneness’’, it is imperative that you love yourself a lot more than you are doing now. Not to a point of selfishness or self worship but to a point where you are comfortable even if you are all by yourself! That way, when you do have company, whether friends or lovers, they will enjoy being with you just as much as you enjoy being with you!
