In many countries of the world today, statistics indicate an increase in divorce rates occasioned by failed marital relationships. Tales of shattered dreams, disappointment, dissatisfaction and disillusionment abound everywhere and there seems to be no solution or respite in sight. The once exclusive family problems or marital difficulties are devolving themselves on the society as social ills and dysfunctional communities of persons on an astronomical rate. The craze for liberality and sophistication has literally pushed purebred humans to the brink of self-engineered extinction, as the legalization of depravities such as bestiality is increasingly being contemplated.The way out of many quagmires is sometimes also the way in, so we can retrace our steps to safe grounds.
When the foundation of a structure or building is faulty, then it is just a matter of time before the entire super structure comes crashing down. For untold generations mankind has increasingly explored ways of exploiting anything and everything mainly for his benefit alone, even to the extent of exploiting fellow humans through the slave trade. With the abolition and suppression of the slave trade, modern forms of legalized slavery have found expression in various institutions across the world, including marriage.
The ceremony of marriage in many parts of the world, remains perhaps one of the greatest monuments of legalized slave trade, where humans are conveniently traded at a price. This makes people enter into the marriage relationship with expectation of returns on their financial investment. This is not the main issue though but just a lucid explanation of the reality of far too many marital experiences.
The main point here is that increasingly, couples consummate marriages with various expectations of what they can gain or benefit from the other person. Many hope to exploit the other person for their advantage because people generally see and admire in others what they lack in themselves. This desire to exploit the other person in marriage has been shrouded in various terms such as “complimenting each other” etc, but the error most times reveals itself in the fact that those desirable traits we see in the other person go with shocking and possibly unacceptable faults of personality and outright vices which are carefully concealed until later. Herein lies the chief reason for many of the shattered dreams, disappointment, disillusionment and final breakdown of marriages. The same is also true of the heartaches experienced in many relationships today.
