“He who walks with the wise shall be wise, but the companions of fools shall be destroyed”(Pro13:20.)
Let this qualify whoever enters the arena of your life: they must desire what you possess or must possess something you desire.
The people God allows to come into our lives are one major ways, He answers our prayers for His help and provisions. If you don’t have value for people regardless of their status, beauty or position, you are in the school of foolishness, because it is a fool that ignores his long awaited blessings when they show up. Some people have been sent into your life to help you achieve your vision, goals and plans, and it is therefore wisdom that you are able to recognize them when they show up. Dr Mike Murdock once said in one of his teaches, “You are only four people away from anybody in the world.” This paints the picture of the needfulness, and how valuable people are to us.
Who is a right friend?
Now understand that not all people are blessings to you, some will be sent by the wicked forces to terminate your vision, abort your goals and confuse your plans; how you deal with choosing who becomes your friend, and who does not become your friend is a function of how wise you truly are. When you know your purpose, you will need to seek out others who can help you at it. You may have to go a great distance to find them. You will have to learn what others have to say about the things you do. The people you surround yourself with represent your environment and they can advance you or hinder you. You have to get into the right environment to manifest yourself.
Like a pregnant woman who has to get a different set of clothes because of her present condition, and particularly because she has outgrown her regular clothes, you might have to shed some people and friends. Some who started out with you before pregnancy cannot stand to be around you when you are heavy. Sometime you need different people around you. You need midwives, not critics. Some people can be with you at the conception, but cannot handle growth; from these set of people, you depart.
The friends who start with you must not necessarily stay or finish with you. How do I mean? Have you ever seen where builders are constructing a house? Notice that whenever it was time to construct the roof, or do some plastering, or paint the building, they usually mount a number of planks which are joined together, upon which they usually stand so as to enable them carry out their jobs. Have you ever seen a completed, painted house with those planks still in their mounted position, with people living there? No they were necessary then, but they are no more needed again.
There are people who will not be necessary after sometimes, because they wouldn’t be able to march your new level due to their lack of development and growth. And if you stay with them long enough with that undeveloped mentality, they will suffocate you and hold you back. They are still where they used to be, while you have gone far. Levels are now different. Your mentality has so developed compared to theirs. There are no more common grounds anymore.
Be like Mary, the Mother of Jesus, who when she received the message to be the one to bring forth the Savior into the world; she went and found someone whose destiny was similar to hers—Elizabeth. Elizabeth, who had been barren all her life was supernaturally visited and miraculously got pregnant in her old age. Her pregnancy was six months ahead of Mary’s supernatural encounter and the first person that Mary ran to was not her fellow virgin friends, who have no capacity to understand her divine encounter; she went to someone who was undergoing a divine mandate similar to hers. Elizabeth, the mother of John the Baptist, the forerunner of Jesus Christ. Mary went to someone who had experienced the morning sickness and the pregnancy fevers; someone who would be able to encourage her when she begins to experience the same sickness and fever accustom to pregnant women. She stayed until Elizabeth delivered and got the experience of child bearing. Find people whose destines are connected to yours; people who are doing things similar to your life’s dream; people who are passionate in what you are passionate about and establish a good relationship with them. Even if you have to humble yourself to be with them and learn from them, it’s worth it.
You can dream as big as you want to, but if you have wrong set of friends or you marry the wrong person, you would be living in a cage all your life. Before you get married, talk to your fiancés on what your dreams are and what you hope to achieve in life. Tell him or her how high you want to fly and if you get a negative response, there is no match yet. You can’t be an eagle and marry a pigeon and Pigeons cannot fly where eagles fly. THANKS.
