Everybody has a need that must be met if relationships must strive and prosper. Everything in life functions by principles, which have been established to determine the outcome of any behaviour. Meeting the need of your husband is a way of getting him to function effectively and adequately in your love relationship. Here are a few of them:
1. Your husband needs sex.
Sex for a man who is married is not just an ordinary activity; it is a need that must be men in a marriage relationship. Men don’t want sex as much as they need it. And, that is why he wouldn’t tolerate rejection. He doesn’t want to feel he is raping her wife; that is why they hang off after a few rejections by their wives.
Like the car, it needs petrol, but do you like petrol? No. Do you drink petrol? No. Is it goo for you? No. But does the needs it? Yes. Now, you may not understand how needful sex is to your husband, it is never a woman’s need. So you really don’t have to like it the way they do. You have to help meet that need by not making him fight for it always; you can initiate it for him, because he needs it, and only his wife is licensed to provide it. Remember that when you want to buy petrol for your car, and the station refuses to open; do you turn back home? No. You look for another station. Make sure your station is always opened and put a sign on it “premium obtained”. Don’t let him go elsewhere.
2. Your husband needs recreational companionship.
Men love their women to be actively involved in their recreation, but very few women know this. A man’s recreation is what he does or likes doing that make me express himself from his heart. It could sport, music, politics or business. Whatever it is your husband likes to do, it is wisdom that you study it and do it with him. If he likes jogging, go along with him a couple of times. Whatever he likes to do, make yourself like the same, and by so doing, you meet a need in him that will make him release himself to meet yours too. Remember, you don’t have to like what he does; you have to make yourself like it. He needs it.
3. Your husband needs attractive wives.
It is known that men are designed to be stimulated by their eyes, but for the women, it is what she hears. And because of this, men have a natural desire for a beautiful wife. He does not want a beautiful wife; he needs a beautiful wife. Most are less attractive after marriage than they were before marriage; this is disastrous. You are to look better than you were before you married your husband. That is what he needs to have to be the man you need him to be. Take care of yourself woman. Look good always. Smell good always.
4. Men need domestic support.
Men need home support. Home is suppose to be a refuge for a man; a hiding place. He doesn’t want to come home after a long day’s work and meet a disorganised home. He needs a place of comfort to come back to, and you, as the wife must provide that for him. So, your home; how does it look physically? How does it feel emotionally? Women determine the atmosphere of the home. A man may have had a terrible time at work with his boss or staff, but coming home for him is a big relief. Men need the welcoming arms of their wives everyday physically, emotionally and psychologically.
5. Your husband needs admiration and respect.
A man doesn’t want respect from his wife, he needs it. God does not instruct and expect wives to love their husbands; God’s instruction is for the husband to love his wife, but for the wife, He said they should respect their husbands. Woman, you get the best out of your man, when you give him what he needs—respect. In fact, love is spelt r-e-s-p-e-c-t to a man. I know there are times you don’t feel like doing it, maybe, because you know better, or you possess much more than he does, but you have to make yourself respect the man in your life. It is a must. What is respect? Respect means to speak highly of. It means to hold in high regard. It means to praise. It means to recognise and express appreciation for something valuable. The average Nigerian man obviously receives no praise. It is even worse in cases where women honour their pastors than they honour their husbands. That unscriptural and wrong. THANKS.
