Are there ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
I have heard this questions many times that I have lost count. Especially from those who just “recently broke up” with their partners. They keep asking just how do I get her/him to return my calls?
Its gonna sound hard to believe but there are really “magic” words you can really use to make your ex lover return your calls very fast it’s gonna look like a spell have been cast on them!
Cool huh?…
I’ m gonna share this with you because this is one of the biggest question I get from hundreds of people like you that are just trying to put back their relationship in shape. You are just going to see that the reason your ex is not returning your calls is because you have been doing it all wrong!
So I am going to answer…”How do I get my ex lover to return my phone call, text or IM?”
BUT…
Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works and will NEVER work.
and worse…
Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position. These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD category- Where the message sounds like
“Paul, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called and you never answered or returned my calls. I HAVE to talk to you.”
And the EMERGENCY-
“Jane, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches? When used, your ex lover will never return your calls!
So, I won’t go on and on…
” How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage “
Did you just hear what I just said? “Curiosity” and “Self Interest”, two of the most powerful forces in the human mind. I can see you nodding your head and understanding how you have been doing it all wrong.Yeah, way to go!
And here’s the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’
So…
Let’s tweak what you may have said above to what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi Paul. It’s Jane. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”
Do you see how that uses BOTH “curiosity” and “self interest”?
Paul will NOT be able to resist! and he will keep asking himself “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message. You are getting it now, don’t you?
But hey…
Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”…which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate. It can be any small thing…but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly…What I am saying is…
What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Good Luck to you as you take better control of your relationship!
