When two people meet and become suddenly attracted to each other, it is easy to conclude that it is love, and that they are in love. This is probably why the saying: ‘love at first sight’ still holds sway in our world. And it is so real, as every day, people constantly meet and fall in love at first sight. But although ‘love’ may mean a lot of things to a lot of people, there should be a general acceptance of what love itself is, and should be.
Yes, it can be a challenge to tell things apart when you are so attracted to this other person. The very bond that connects the both of you to each other is enough to be called love. But this is not always the case. Infatuation is a very intense but short-lived passion for someone. It happens very fast and is sometimes irrational, but because of its intensity, it is often always confused with love—real love. And, it is also strong enough to bind two people together.
If you are patient and kind to your partner, if you are not selfish or irritable towards this person, if you are not jealous of this person’s successes, if you do not keep a record of wrongs, if you respect, trust and admire this person, if you accept this person for who he or she truly is-shortcomings and all, if you care, protect and shelter this person, if you are always willing and ready to take the blow for this person, if you put this person before yourself, if you cry when he or she cries and laugh when he or she laughs, if you see yourself in this person, then, be assured, this is love you are feeling. Your partner should feel this way too.
But no one is perfect, so you and your partner aren’t, and, are bound to be found wanting once in a while. However, the willingness to see your individual faults and correct them for the well-being of your relationship shows how far committed you are to each other.
You both should feel a tender affection for each other, as when this happens, your relationship will hardly be based on money, sex and its likes. It will be based on you two.
If there is love, then you ought to have a say in your relationship; your partner will not constantly kill your dreams and aspirations by discouraging you, both of you can share gifts or money with each other, and either of you would be ready to reach a compromise on an issue.
Most times, many admirable relationships are those that start out as friendships. This is because by starting out as friends, both partners have had the time to study each other, build a firm foundation based on trust, and open up their deepest thoughts to each other. This way, knowingly or unknowingly, they have been able to assess their compatibility levels and taken their differences into consideration.
But no matter how a relationship begins, love can be attainable if both partners respect each other’s feelings. This is achievable and both partners can work together to realize it.
Good luck.
