PRE-MARITAL SEX, AN ANTIDOTE TO REAL LOVE.
The word “SEX” is being defined in Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary as “The physical activity between two people in which they touch each others sexual organs, and which may include sexual intercourse”. Most young people think that sex is love. They believe that when there is no sexual intercourse in a relationship, there is no true love.
A relationship that is based solely on sexual attraction is not a true one. Although sex is a vital tool in a marital relationship, it is not the basics for healthy relationship. A relationship that is based solely on sex is destined to end in heartbreak and with the feeling of being used by one or both parties.
Our youths today are prone to sex. People no longer regard virginity as a pride. They believe that so long as you are into a relationship with someone, you must have sex with the person. Have you ever considered the dangers of pre-marital sex to a relationship?
In the religious sense, sex is made for only married couples. It is a means of procreation and also strengthens their love. It is a sin against God for one to be involved in a pre-marital sex.
Sex confuses emotions and complicates the process of separating infatuation from real love. When sex is all that keeps a relationship going, the relationship is fragile and can crush if one partner is no longer satisfy the other. A person that truly loves you will always keep his/her sexual desires in check. He/she must not insist that you must make love to him/her in order to prove the love between both of you. This is not a characteristic of a true love but lust.
Men gives love to get sex while women give sex to get love. A can want sex without being in love while a woman gives in to intimate sexual caressing for security and not love. A man who has sexual attraction to lady can pretend to be in love with her only to get is primary objective(sex).He does everything to convince the woman he loves her while what he means is that he loves to make her a sex object. This woman gives in to his advances believing it is a way of sealing the relationship. Women give sex in order to get love or to have someone they can cling to. Intensive desire blinds judgment and this leads to unwise actions. Sex addictiveness and stimulation makes you to loose objective assessment.
Sex increases your chances of contacting sexual transmitted infections (STI). This might reduce your productivity level when married can even lead to barrenness. You can’t ascertain the level of faithfulness in your relationship. Your partner might be having sex with another person who might have STI and he/she transmits it to you during sexual intercourse.
It is better to wait until you are married before having sex. Pre-marital sex erodes your ability to love and degrades your self worth. Sex before marriage may result to unwanted pregnancy. It declines the curiosity between partners and reduces the chances of marriage.
How much you love someone does depend on how many times you had sex with the person. “If sex can get you through the night, what do you have that will get you through a life time?” True love does not pressurize or force you to do what you do not want to do but respects and values your worth and fillings.
BY
AMARACHI NJOKU
