Why do we always play high during courtship, but immediately after marriage, we keep the fire out? In courtship we do all we know to keep it lively and enjoyable, but not so in marriage. Most couples think both cases are different. That courtship is when you do all the enjoyment because when you are married, you have to face other serious issues, which will not allow for such enjoyment. How true is this?
Marriage is most enjoyable if couples understand how to play the game. It has been said over and over again that the average Nigerian man lacks the will of a romantic affairs, and for this, most Nigerian women are closed to really expressed romance in their marriages. Though, this to a large extend has not been proven, however, many ladies interviewed expressed their concern to the fact that Nigerian men are not romantic. To keep your marriage enjoyable, both partners have their roles to play. It’s not the time to say who should play a major role.
Imagine when a child is sick and his taking to the hospital, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple, loving touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through that sickness. This I can bet because of my experience from my mom. So it is with relationships. When you have a yam farm, and you want to reap a better harvest, you need a lot of tendering.
Playing with your spouse, touching their hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on the neck, a soft pat on the thigh or given a gentle back rub will make a huge difference on how your spouse responds to you. When was the last time you walked up to your spouse for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on her neck? It is not only during sex, but an affectionate way outside sexual time. There is a difference. The next time the two of you are sitting in the car or just cooking in the kitchen, quietly reach over and take her hand. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first time! All the same, keep touching and keep the relationship on.
