Relationships often have this very formal feel attached to them where the whole atmosphere is so defined and the rules are clearly spelt out even if it is in the subconscious as if the whole essence of the arrangement is that it should end up self destructing;whereas in an arrangement called friendship,almost anything goes as each party is left to express themselves without issues bordering on threats or hidden fault finders.There is a very free atmosphere in the latter fuelled by the fact that each partner quickly wants to overlook the other’s faults and failings as quickly as it comes as you would do for a friend rather than the stockpile they tend to build in formal relationships with an intention to revisit at the slightest hint of provocation.they also often make use of other relationships as reference points as if the various ‘dramatis personae’ had the same DNA and so it would be perfect for comparison.This is why some people refuse to refer to their arrangements as relationships prefering to define it as friendship for the rest of their lives so that they do not fall prey of all those unnecessary pitfalls earlier highlighted.i would not blame them either as it has been proven that frienship often wins over relationships.it just depends on individual perceptions.
