RELATIONSHIPS: THE BUG
When you search and wait for a partner………you will eventually find that person that will compliment you for the rest of your life. Everyone will find someone. The wait is compensated for as this person becomes the interest of your life. The prime focus. The process of getting to know each other begins with intense trepidation………and at the same time uncanny expectations.
After introductions……names, nationality ….you begin to evaluate how this person will rhyme with you in every aspect and facet of life. How will she accept me and my habits? Mannerisms? General outlook on life? Beliefs? And reactions? With respect to personal likes and dislikes? The first couple of days interacting are uncomfortable………this person is under gross scrutiny and the ‘acceptance process’ quite grueling! You are conscious of all he does! How she talks, how she eats, how she sits, how she stands…almost looking for reasons to reject this person. Why? The ‘fear of the unknown’. If I accept this person will I still be attractive? Can we still relate? Will this euphoria last forever? Nice warm internal sensations, almost too polite conversations laced with raw courtesy, pleasant gestures (dinner dates, gifts, thoughtful phone calls and emails) with motive to impress and assist make acceptance easier.
Truth is what will be will be……….that should always be at the back of our minds. This orientation will allow you enjoy yourself and most important……learn from the relationship. Whatever the eventual outcome…..you carry on very positively and adopt a healthier approach to people and to life generally. Remember the song writer? “No pain no gain” or the famous quote? “No venture no gain”.
