The very fact that life in itself has earned the ‘enigma’-status derives from its frequent unpredictability and now proven penchant for being unfair; letting-go only when people have learnt to fight for what they would normally have deserved.While it may sound like an assertion, it does often push people to certain extremes and they then stick to this extreme or that other extreme in life,believing that certain things either would never happen,or almost most always would happen as a matter of surety.it has to be noted here that extremes do very little to help anybody,this is why this write-up tries to proffer a solution along the line as it is key to real successful living.
Now when the term unpredictability comes into play,it is not to be taken for wavering or vacillating between two points; it would only only mean that you cannot be boxed-in i.e be very much known to react in one particular way every time certain things happen.without wanting to make all of these sound abstract, i must give an example at this point.if a troublesome spouse were to be absolutely sure that her partner would raise the roof every time he finds out that his dinner is not ready on time, she seems to know the right buttons to push just to make him blow his top even without leaving her seat.this means the partner hangs on to one extreme of life which portends danger for his health, his marriage, and a lot of other things including his sanity.all of these very much mean that while he may be on his right,it could all blow up in his face and come back to hunt him just because he does not understand the word ‘control’.For this same partner, the day he chooses to keep quiet rather than blow his top, when the troublesome partner has done her usual and made sure his dinner is absent; then the spouse begins to think there is something wrong somewhere,and because she cannot predict him anymore she loses the initiative and he gains the upper hand in the mind game playing out right before both of them.
This scenario works for different other aspects of life,meaning that one should learn to vary reactions to certain things,and often times it is very helpful to act the other way round, say stay cool when you are expected to get very annoyed; or get annoyed when they could say granted, that you would stay cool.it sounds a bit eccentric, but it has been known to work over time through life.it preserves your sanity and long life in the same process.Tell yourself every time,”Extremes help nobody”, stay within the limits and it will always be to your very advantage.
Virtually every one has heard of the word remote control but not too many people have heard of the word ‘Emote-Control’ which means “keep your emotions in check”.learn to deal with stuff, digest it and let it cool down because often times people are known to handle issues sub-consciously with the same level of urgency or tension transmitted while the message was being passed across.this means that a person who has just lost a dear one but has the news broken to him/her casually has a tendency to stay calm,although shocked or maybe even dumb-founded when the normal reaction would have be to shout impulsively and break into tears.this also applies to burning issues, like an adage in my language teaches that you do not attack a burning issue in a fiery manner just because that was the way it chose to show up.
It gives a lot of head-start on initiative when you calm down and keep your emotions in check while attacking issues,as they get sought out better,faster and more efficiently with a clear head.
