A few Saturdays ago, my neighbour’s friend with whom she is age mates with (i.e., 23 years), got wedded and I had been eager to see wedding snapshots, so I asked my neighbour—whose excitement over the event had known no bounds—to get some for me when she could. I didn’t know what I was expecting as I watched the wedding photo splash with enthusiasm, but I sure had not expected to see my neighbour’s young friend next to a forty-something year-old groom. It was easy to tell that he was that old: he looked forty-ish, with facial lines, slight pot-belly and all. This would then be making the second of my neighbour’s friends—that I know of—who is marrying an older man.
I know of a few other cases myself, where the bride was always far younger than the groom, but I never gave it any much thought not until quite recently when my friend’s friend (a guy), lamented to him in a joking manner, saying that in the area where he resided, it seemed that all the ‘young, pretty, and hot’ girls were being taken by older generation men so that when men of his own age finally decided to settle down, where then would they find wives? He had meant it as a joke, but clearly, it was giving him a cause for concern.
The reasons why younger women prefer older men may already be well known, such as: An older man has been around, i.e., whether he has been married once or twice, or has been a ‘playboy’, he understands the wants and needs of a woman’s romantic sensibilities. He’s had the time to determine the best methods for wooing a girl and, better yet, he’s had time to perfect the art. Older men make young ladies feel appreciated for their beauty and their youth. While young guys, on the other hand, may just take their ladies to any small social-joint just around the corner, older men are looking for a companion to accompany them to high profile galas and events, giving the lady the chance to dress up and show off her best physical attributes in the prime of her life. Although today’s young women may claim to be liberated and free of the chains their mothers fought to cast off, they still want to be treated like the majestic girls they are. Older men have retained that traditional sense of courtship even through today’s confusion. Another force of attraction may be the older men’s big bank accounts–a fat wallet is an attractive attribute to a girl struggling to make her way in a failing economy. An older man has the savings to support her in launching a profitable career or he can help her get ahead in paying off her education. A man who is well-established in his career can take more days for vacation, and has more money to spend. If she needs a car, for example, she just needs to say the word and she’s got it. If he is extremely rich, he takes her shopping so that she can show off the wardrobe of her dreams. Last but not least, another reason is that an older man may seem to possess more wisdom and so young women flock to a father figure for guidance and advice. He will help her navigate the tortuous path of a complex financial and social world. This is a way for a young woman to enjoy a mature, romantic relationship.
All these reasons stated, who is really to blame? The economy may have a role to play in it, but I firmly believe that the younger guys can still salvage the situation. Let us kindly remember that a woman needs affection more than any other thing. She needs a guy who would be gentle, pet and pamper her just a little. She just needs to feel appreciated. Why not consider doing this if you are currently in a relationship, or about to get into one? Money or no money, if there is romance in a relationship, a lot has been taken care of. Lastly, please do not worry about not finding a wife when the time comes for you, the Lord in His goodness has kept a wife for you, and He will surely lead you to find her!
