HOW CAN YOU GET OVER A BREAKUP
A breakup can crush ones joyful disposition and replace it with tearful despair. Let’s consider some who dated for more than two years. Over that period their emotional bond grew. Throughout the day they sent messages with expression of endearment to each other. From time to time, they gave each other gifts to show they were thinking of the other. One even said “He put an effort to listen to me and understand me above all, made me feel special”
Moses said “we’d been dating for seven months and had been friends for more than four years. When she wanted to end the relationship, she couldn’t even face me. She just stopped talking to me. I felt helpless. The disappointment was overwhelming. I kept asking myself, did I do anything wrong? ”
IT HURTS MORE THAN PAIN
If you have been in a situation similar to those mention above, you might ask, Will I ever be able to move on? I understand your distress. In fact, some have said that a breakup is like a minideath.
Don’t say: I’m unlovable. No one will ever love me.
Say: I’m going to be all right. The breakup hurt, but I’m getting better.
The good news is you can reach the acceptance stage.
HOW CAN YOU COPE WITH YOUR HEARTBREAK
Dear reader, time heals all wounds. When you first breakup, those words might ring hollow. That is because time is only part of the solution. For instance, a cut on your skin will heal in time, but it hurts now. You need to stop the bleeding and soothe the pain. You also need to keep it from becoming infected. The same is true with an emotional wound. Right now, it hurts. But there are steps you can take to lessen the pain and keep from becoming infected with bitterness. Time will do its part, but how can you do yours? Try the following.
v Allow yourself to grieve. There is time for everything. There is nothing wrong with having a good cry. Shedding tears doesn’t mean you are weak.
v Take care of your physical health. Physical exercise and proper nutrition will help replenish the lost from the emotional toll of a breakup. Ask yourself, what areas pertaining to your health might you need to give attention to?
v Keep busy. Don’t stop doing the things that interest you. And now, more than ever, don’t isolate yourself. Associating with those who care about you will give you something positive on which to focus.
v Pray to God about your feelings. This might be a challenge. Why? After breakup, some even feel betrayed by God. They reason, “I prayed and prayed that in would find someone, and now look at what happened!” But, would it be right to view God as merely a celestial matchmaker? Surely not; nor is he responsible when one party does not wish the relationship to continue. Dear reader, God cares a lot. So pure your feelings to him in prayers.
If the relationship you were involved in didn’t become what you had hoped, remember this: in the middle of a storm, it’s easy to focus on the dark sky and the pouring rain. Eventually, though the rain stops and the sky clears. Many victims of breakup have found that they were, in time, able to move on. Be assured that the same can be true of you!
