People with low self-confidence never ever live life to the fullest. They are never fulfilled. They never get to the point of self actualization.They maintain a distance from others and hence deny themselves love and care from friends. Moreover, they never realize the full potential of their abilities.They don’t accept that they are at fault when things go wrong, instead they blame others or life for their misfortune. These kind of people become a burden for themselves, their families and society.
Even success frightens people with low self esteem. They give up on their way to success. Worse,they don’t expect to be successful. Also for anything that goes wrong they think themselves to be the culprit. They even proudly tell others that they knew beforehand that things would go wrong. This is a feature very common among low esteem people and needs immediate correction.
Another characteristic of people with low self-esteem is underestimating themselves. They constantly tell themselves that they are not good and will fail in all endeavors. Over a period of time, they start believing that they deserve nothing good. Their negativity might even spread to people around them. For people who face similar problems, they should be alert against them because such people get attracted towards them. And then the negativity multiplies even faster. This results in further deterioration of their mental states and worsening of their life.
They are mostly pessimists.Their negative expectations erodes them of their self-confidence. They don’t see their capabilities but they very conscious of inabilities.
Also, low esteem people always keep lamenting about the past and are anxious about the future. And in the mean time lose their present too. They nether enjoy the present nor work for the future. As a result, they are never happy with either their present, past or future. This becomes a vicious cycle and they are never able to break free from the negative thinking.
Relaxation is a concept they are unaware of. They always keep switching jobs and work profiles. This is because they feel very much uneasy at what they currently do. They create one crisis after another and blame it on destiny.
To get a sense of false relief some resort to unethical means like alcohol, sex and drugs. But this is even more harmful to them. This doesn’t give them mental peace and harmony.
People with low self esteem even have problems in every aspect of their life. They have problem with most people in their life.They avoid intimacy with other people. They don’t get close to people and never reveal their innermost thoughts. They keep some very bad experiences and feelings buried inside them, thereby giving rise to even more pain and despair. They keep on plunging deeper and deeper in to their negative world. The condition might go so bad that they can never be cured.
But this is not healthy for society. People with low self esteem need assistance. They should be put through a proper treatment. If needed they should be given guidance by a professional, if their near and dear ones aren’t able to do much for them.And if you read this article and you fall in this category, it is not too late to make a change.Seek counsel,believe in yourself and don’t settle for less.
