“I don’t like that mark on my face. I wish I could take it out,” “gosh! This injury is going to leave a scar.” We often hear this complain around us. People hate scars. They don’t want anything that will put blemish on their outer covering ‘skin’, men and women alike.
These are only physical scars that could be erased by creams or for the affluent with corrective cosmetic surgery. But there are scars which are not seen but exist. They can’t be removed by cream and I bet Dr. 90210 will not be able to, no matter how skilled he is. This is the hurt scar.
When we curse people, say hateful thing to them in anger or frustration we destroy them and leave this scars in their heart which can never be erased. Some of us, with good spirit do go back to apologize but it still doesn’t remove the fact that we haven’t hurt them or that the scars are no more there.
I remember a story that goes like this; there was once a little girl who had a bad temper. Her mother gave her a bag of nails and told her that every time she lost her temper, she must hammer a nail into the back of the fence. The first day the girl had driven 37 nails into the fence.
Over the next few weeks, as she learned to control her anger, the number of nails hammered daily gradually dwindled down. She discovered it was easier to hold her temper than to drive those nails into the fence. Finally, the day came when the girl didn’t lose her temper at all. She told her mother about it and the mother suggested that the girl now pull out one nail for each day that she was able to hold her temper. The days passed and the young girl was finally able to tell her mother that all the nails were gone. The mother took her daughter by the hand and led her to the fence. She said, you have done well, my daughter, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same.
When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound you inflict on others will still be there. A verbal wound is as bad as a physical one or much more. So, my advice to everyone is; learn to control those angry words which we lash out freely.
