(1) Be Responsible: This is not to get you molested. It’s just a clarion call. There is a saying that goes “if you don’t stand for something, you fall for everything”. That’s a fact! It’s time you begin to be responsible for every actions you take, for every result that make-or-break. – It’s time you stop referring blame instead of saying “it was my fault”. – Why not begin to say “am sorry!” when you did something wrong. – Why not begin to stand-in-the-gap of others when they are not available for a joint-task. – Why not start been responsible for the cleanliness of your street if not your community. – Why not begin to obey laws and rules. – Don’t you think it’s time you begin to respect authorities no matter how ‘low’ they’ve presented themselves? Been responsible is not only a marital duty. It doesn’t have any similarity to lack of money. You can be responsible for the timely appearance of your boss if you happen to be his driver.
You can be responsible for those two-three customers if you happen to be the Sales rep. Maybe the reason you’re not good at team work is because you’re not ready to watch someone else’s back but you’re ready to make great fun out of the fall. It’s time you develop your mindset on this line: “If I assist a friend to be king, i will be called the king’s friend” Be responsible! At a time I was asked to fill a form by a foreign partner because we had to use their resources to stage a youth conference, in all the questions I answered, what struck me most was this question – COMMUNITY SERVICE(S). Am sure they were expecting me to be responsible to my environs if not beyond. What helps me was the voluntary service I offer if not that line would have been blank and that might have been a minus. Am a volunteer to some NGO’s and that doesn’t reduce me. There are so many things you can stand for. There are so many NGO’s in need of volunteers. So many things around you need your participation. Even if you’re not good at fund raising why not help in protocol, maybe you’re that shy to speak, why not shift to welfare. There is no excuse for not been responsible!
(2) Show Gratitude: Express your appreciation freely; don’t wait for it to be demanded. You create a good measure of impression when you simply say “thank you!” for what was done for you. It’s a total knock-out when someone went a ‘long way’ to render a service or make you happy and you resolve to keep shut because of self esteem. Thank you is an impression, it shows that you care! In another perspective, don’t see it as fun to always be at the receiving end. You too can do something in return as a sign of your appreciation.
(3) Forgive: This might sound strange, but it’s of importance. I won’t be explaining this in its definition but in its physiological effect. In most cases, the fellow that offends you, feel less of the pain because he/she think less of it. To you, it might be an issue of turbulence if you refuse to forgive. The effect comes all on you. You feel the pain the most; at some instance when you see the person your heart jumps. It’s time you build a complete character by forgiving whoever has done you wrong. Forgiveness is maturity!
(4) Reverence People: No matter how ‘small’ the person next door, give respect. No matter how ‘low’ your co-workers, deference them. If you’re ‘too big’ to respect others then you’re ‘too small’ to be respected. Give regard as due to people. Be humble enough to ‘dust off the shoe of your house boy’. Even if the lady is not pretty, appreciate her oral quality. Even if the dude is shabbily dressed, appreciate the fact that he’s handsome. There is always something to respect in others. Give honor to authorities because some day, you might attain that height.
(5) Don’t Compete: There is wholly nothing to proof but something to share when in a relationship. The end result gives praises to both of you. Your partner’s uniqueness has got a lot to play in the relationship and that’s why you need not to contest with him/her but give a wide playing field to display his/her skill to the maximum. Everyone has got his/her strength and weakness. You can’t be the best in all areas yet you shouldn’t go below good in every area. Complementing each other should be the right way to earn result. Team work doesn’t make dream work while competing.
(6) Be dependable: This can be a determinant to your person. Some people can never be sincere with time; 2pm will always be 4pm. Adjust that! Don’t cheat others, be honest. Do what you tell others to do. Build a good repute by doing what you say you will do. Be reliable! When someone confide in you, it might be a test of integrity. That money insured in your hand can be a self test. Don’t make promise that you can’t fulfill. Be trustworthy!
(7) Shut up and Listen: The easiest way to character deformation is when you present yourself to be the ‘all knowing’. Your ‘bossy’ attitude is only going to create a wrong impression about you. Start learning from others. Your wisdom can be so infinitesimal to someone listening to you. Why not keep silent and add up. Wise men don’t talk much!
Till you read from me again. Cheers! © 2010.
