Articles about sex have always attracted a handful of interested readers who would love to experience very blissful and exciting love-making. Besides, boring sexual intimacy between married couples has often resulted in extra-marital affairs as a window to finding the missing link.
Moreover, some women usually complain that they do not experience the spark of intense pleasure that comes with sexual intercourse. A survey that was carried out by a media outfit in a locality regarding the number of women that experience orgasm during sexual intercourse with their male partners emphasizes this clearer. 65 percent have never had orgasm with their mates, 20 percent have had it on some occasions while the other 15 percent do not even know about female orgasm! Does this mean there is something the man or the woman or both of them are not doing right?
Orgasm, which is the climax of sexual excitement, consisting of intense muscle tightening around the genital area (accompanied by ejaculation) experienced as a pleasurable wave of tingling sensations through parts of the body, occurs with men much faster than with women. It takes a man between 1-10 minutes to climax while the woman would have to wait until about 20 minutes! (in other words, female orgasm is real)
But this journey to sexual zenith is rather demanding given the fact that one of the pilots in this flight gets there before the other. However, being that sexual intercourse is a union (which excludes subordination), both partners ought to cooperate in this union; but this requires patience and understanding.
The following tips would be helpful in attaining orgasm as you embark on your love-trip with your partner.
- Surrender to pleasure: Become aware of all your feelings. You can start by getting rid of all the prejudices and insecurity that you have about sexual intercourse. Remove all the disturbing factors from your mind and completely focus on what is happening here and now.
- Learn to relax: Try to stay calm and relaxed during intercourse despite the growing sexual tension. By halting and controlling the arousal, the orgasm will come as an explosion of feelings.
- Become aware of your body: Get to know all about your sexual composition and the various sexual techniques. The more you know about your body and its response to sexual stimuli, the easier it will become for your partner to take you to orgasmic ecstasy.
- Take your time: Do not rush things but take time for getting pleasure. Do not skip the foreplay but start by talking about your sexual fantasies and then slowly begin with stimulation of your intimate parts and other sensitive areas. Erotic stimuli will completely arouse you and make your body and mind ready for an intense orgasm.
- Control your sexual energy: Control the flow of your sexual energy in the body with your thoughts. A little practice will bring you intense results and a perfect sexual feeling.
- Express your wishes: Discover what brings you pleasure and do not be ashamed to share it with your partner. Take the bull by the horns and show him the right moves, either with words or in some other way. Good communication is the key to mutual pleasure.
- Strengthen your vaginal muscles: A good physical condition is an important factor. Exercising your vaginal muscles will make it easier to control your sexual arousal hence you will reach longer and more intense orgasm.
- Stay moist (wet): Longer and more intense orgasm require a long and intensive intercourse, so have a lubricant handy to prevent irritability, pain or other unpleasant things that could spoil your sexual mood.
In a nutshell, both partners should learn to communicate about their sexual needs. You should Tell him how you need IT!
