Ever felt your heart beat very fast when you and your man are out on an intimate dinner, or even just taking an evening stroll and a more gorgeously dressed, showy and engaging lady breezes past the both of you and you are more than convinced that he has noticed her? Or, ever sat in your solitude and wondered why he was still guilty of the ‘steal a look’ or peeking act when he is so much in love with you and you know you dress and look modern and sweet? Don’t be alarmed; he may not be guilty of having a roving eye, in fact, he may be displaying a strangely normal behaviour which is devoid of any ulterior unhealthy interests. Hard to accept? Here is my humble opinion.:
There are different kinds of men in the world; there are those who, superficially, just notice the other lady in her revealing outfit or excessively alluring manners walk past and then turn back to the tȇte-à-tȇte they were having with you, as though nothing out of the ordinary had just happened; there are those who do not even notice at all! (strange, but some men actually do not budge when another lady passes by). And then, there are those men who literally gawk and gaze longer than is normal, and may even continue doing it surreptitiously. A man in this category, even if he does not go ahead and actually approach this lady, may have unwittingly put himself in a tricky spot of having the intent to do so. He has in fact been unable to apply self-control under the circumstance which suggests that spiritually, he may be weak and struggling, and such a gentleman must be open to all the help you should give him to obtain maximum spiritual growth and strength.
By knowing that your man loves you yet cannot help but ‘peek’, suggests that even though you cannot condone it, you may not want to judge him too harshly. Men are ‘visual creatures’; they see and think with their eyes, the majority of the time. Women seem more cautious with what they see and usually apply the services of their heads to think. Men tend to be easygoing in such matters. By being overly dramatic about the fact that he notices others, is putting a strain you, and you both may cause a once peaceful and healthy relationship to become sour and distrustful. Talk about it instead: he may learn to control himself more.
Naturally, what a woman wants more is love, attention and to know that she is special. These wants seem very satisfying when it’s being given her by her partner, hence, most ladies will be prepared to go to lengths to be this ‘perfect’ woman to their men to obtain these wants. This is not exactly wrong, however you must not compromise your identity and dignity by being someone other than you. If you try to be the other lady, chances are, he may be looking at you and wondering; ‘Who is this stranger?.’ If you’ve never worn your hair in a different colour before, don’t start now, if you’ve never gone in minis before, don’t start now. If you both trust each other enough, then you don’t have to show too much flesh or look a particular way to get his full attention. Dress and look as nice and modest, cool and elegant as you always have and as you were when he first saw you and decided it was you he needed in his life (for, if he must have come across these other ladies before seeing you but chose the ‘modest you’ instead, there must be reasons for it). In the end, he’ll be grateful to you for being the woman he had always known and not someone else. A man who insists that you must go all ‘wild’ for him, may just be one you would want to be wary of. But a man who would respect your values and inner graces is one who will cherish your modesty and only chip in one or two subtle changes to your personality that is entirely meant for the growth and well-being of the relationship.
Margeret .E.
